Mental Strength Tip #51 – Love-Based Motivation and Personal Success
Welcome back to another Mental Strength Tip!
Reaching your personal goals and achieving personal success begins with a mental strength mindset of empowering beliefs. Reaching your peak potential starts in your mind…and finishes with taking inspired and massive action.
This is one in a series of virtual life coaching tips to help start your week of strong so that you can reach your personal goals and personal success.
I take one subject and run though a brief overview of it, then ask some very direct questions. The intention of this virtual ‘life coaching’ session is for you to write the questions in your success journal and then reflect on them and write your answers and thoughts in your journal.
These series of posts are for YOU! If I’m not able to coach you personally one-on-one over the phone or in The 2nd Passage, I want you to at least get the benefit of a “virtual” mental strength coaching session.
Enjoy!
Objective of this Mental Strength Tip:
To help you understand the difference between fear-based (move away from) and love-based (move towards) motivation and to help you identify which one you’ve been using most of the time.
By the end of this virtual life coaching session I’d like you to understand that while fear-based motivation is powerful and useful for getting of the couch; love-based motivation is the way to sustain progress in reaching your personal goals and the way to create lasting personal success.
Let’s Get Started:
Let’s begin by having you identify your five most powerful emotional motivator’s. Let me tell up front, answers like “my family” and “happiness” don’t cut it. Think about what emotions create energy and movement for you. Is it fear of being late for work, or the excitement of the new day?
Really think about what gets you to take action. If you need some help in defining your types of motivation and how it affects your personal success, I recently finished a series about it. You can find the first post at “The Faces of Motivation And Your Personal Success – Part I”
Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Mental Strength Thinking:
- What’s the difference fear-based and love-based motivation?
- What do you believe the advantages are of love-based motivation?
- Do you believe it’s possible to move from fear-based to love-based motivation?
Unsupportive Beliefs about Love-Based Motivation
- Love-based motivation is for new age thinkers
- The world’s a jungle and love-based motivation will only take you so far.
- Love-based motivation doesn’t cut it in the real world.
Mental Strength Beliefs about Love-Based Motivation
- Only love-based motivation can sustain real personal success.
- Fear-based motivation leads to fatigue, burnout and inconsistent results.
- Love is a more powerful motivator than fear.
Outrageous Questions:
- What percentage of your daily motivation is based in love?
- What has been the more dominant motivational force in your life; love (move towards what you want) or fear (move away from what you don’t want)?
- What are your three greatest personal successes?
- Were they motivated by fear or love?
- How long did you maintain that success?
Reflective Questions:
- Do you believe you would have more personal success if you shifted your motivation from fear to love?
- Do you believe you would be happier by taking action from love instead of fear?
- How can I help you make this critical transition from fear to love based motivation?
Mental Strength Coaching:
This session is about getting you to take a deeper look at your results and identify whether you were motivated more by fear of love.
The delusion factor will probably be high in the area because most people don’t want to admit they’re frightened and aren’t aware of the difference between the two.
Fear-based motivation is a move away from pain, and the further you move away the less the pain, until you reach a point were there is no more pain and you lose the motivation and begin to backslide.
Love-based motivation is moving towards what you want and you will continue to move forward, reach your personal goal, set a new one and continue to move forward.
By looking at some of your past personal successes and how long you maintained them, you’ll most likely reach your own conclusion that most of your motivation was fear-based.
Final Thought
Regardless of what motivation you have used to reach any level of personal success….congratulations! And now you know the difference between love-based and fear-based motivation and you can now make a decision on how you want to continue.
Do you want consistently reach your personal goals and have sustained levels of personal success?
Or do you want to feel frustrated with not being able to hold on to your success and getting erratic results?
The choice is now yours!
If you’d like to get started on developing love-based motivation and a rock solid mindset to reach your personal goals and achieve lasting personal success request your Introductory Consultation today!
Or, if you’d like to study on your own today, order a copy of “Develop the Mental Strength of a Warrior.” This is a fantastic e-book that helps you take control of your thoughts, develop success awareness and helps you tap into the powers of your unconsciousness mind to create the mental strength to succeed at anything!
