Mental Strength Tip #116: Emotional Intelligence and Personal Success

Welcome back to another Mental Strength Tip!

Exceeding your human potential, achieving personal success and reaching your personal goals starts with a mental strength mindset of empowering beliefs that will instill the feeling of empowerment.

Reaching your personal goals, achieving personal success and exceeding your human potential starts in your mind…and finishes with taking inspired and massive action.

This is one in a series of virtual personal coaching and mental strength tips to help kick-start your week.  It is intended to create self-empowerment and inspire you to take action so that you can reach your personal goals and personal success.

I take one mental strength tips and run though a brief overview of it, then ask some very direct coaching questions.  The intention of this virtual personal coaching session is for you to write and answer these questions in your success journal and then reflect on them to gain insight on yourself, your dreams and what’s holding you back.

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Objective of this Mental Strength Tip:

To persuade you that events and circumstances don’t cause negative emotions, you create them.  You can control you emotions by altering your perceptions about the event.

Let’s Get Started:

Emotional intelligence is the capacity to reason about emotions and emotional information, and of emotions to enhance thought.

It involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions

Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Mental Strength Thinking:

• Do you believe that events or perceptions of events create emotions?
• Is it possible to alter your perceptions about an event or person?
• How would altering your perceptions help you reach your human potential and personal goals?

Unsupportive Beliefs about Emotional Intelligence

• It’s impossible to change my emotions by altering my perceptions.
• Changing my responses won’t make me any happier.
• Altering my perceptions won’t work unless they’re actually true.

Mental Strength Beliefs about Emotional Intelligence

• My responses reflect my perceptions and my perceptions control my emotions.
• My happiness is the direct result of how I interpret the events in my life.
• The quality of my perception determines the quality of my life.

Outrageous Questions:

• Are most of your emotional responses helping or holding you back from reaching your personal goals.
• Do extremely successful people respond to events the way you do?
• Is it possible there’s more to this process then you’re currently aware of?

Reflective Questions:

• Have you ever succeeded in alerting your emotional response that helped you?
• On a scale of 1-9, 9 being best, how good are you at altering your perception and changing your emotions?
• How can I assist you in creating the mental strength skill of emotional inelegance?

Mental Strength Coaching:

The Four Branches of Emotional Intelligence:

• Perceiving Emotions: The first step in understanding emotions is to accurately perceive them. In many cases, this might involve understanding nonverbal signals such as body language and facial expressions.

• Reasoning With Emotions: The next step involves using emotions to promote thinking and cognitive activity. Emotions help prioritize what we pay attention and react to; we respond emotionally to things that garner our attention.

• Understanding Emotions: The emotions that we perceive can carry a wide variety of meanings. If someone is expressing angry emotions, the observer must interpret the cause of their anger and what it might mean. For example, if your boss is acting angry, it might mean that he is dissatisfied with your work; or it could be because he got a speeding ticket on his way to work that morning or that he’s been fighting with his wife.

• Managing Emotions: The ability to manage emotions effectively is a key part of emotional intelligence. Regulating emotions, responding appropriately and responding to the emotions of others are all important aspect of emotional management.

Final Thought

The good news is that emotional intelligence CAN be taught and developed. Many books and tests are available to help you determine your current EI, and identify where you may need to do some work. You can also use these tips:

• Observe how you react to people.
• Look at your work environment.
• Do a self-evaluation.
• Examine how you react to stressful situations.
• Take responsibility for your actions.
• Examine how your actions will affect

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