Mental Strength Tip #108: Revenge and Personal Success

Welcome back to another Mental Strength Tip!

Exceeding your human potential, achieving personal success and reaching your personal goals starts with a mental strength mindset of empowering beliefs that will instill the feeling of empowerment.

Reaching your personal goals, achieving personal success and exceeding your human potential starts in your mind…and finishes with taking inspired and massive action.

This is one in a series of virtual personal coaching and mental strength tips to help kick-start your week.  It is intended to create self-empowerment and inspire you to take action so that you can reach your personal goals and personal success.

I take one mental strength tips and run though a brief overview of it, then ask some very direct coaching questions.  The intention of this virtual personal coaching session is for you to write and answer these questions in your success journal and then reflect on them to gain insight on yourself, your dreams and what’s holding you back.

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Objective of this Mental Strength Tip:

To help you understand that any form of revenge is rooted in ego and mental weakness based thinking, which is the downfall for personal success and self empowerment.

Let’s Get Started:

The passion for revenge is strong and sometimes almost overwhelming. But our intuitive logic about revenge is often twisted, conflicted, parochial, and dangerous. Revenge is a primitive, destructive, and violent response to anger, injury, or humiliation. It is a misguided attempt to transform shame into pride.

Many governments, religions, traditions, and cultures provide guidance on when revenge may and may not be sought. Unfortunately this guidance is often unsatisfactory because it excludes groups of people, often mistreat’s women, generally leads to escalation, is unevenly applied, and typically leads to prolonged and escalated violence.

Choose another path…the path of the Awakened Warrior.

Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Mental Strength Thinking:

• Do you see any long-term value in seeking revenge?
• What’s the downside of seeking revenge?
• What were you taught about revenge as a child?

Unsupportive Beliefs about Revenge

• The only way to even the score is through revenge.
• Revenge feels good.
• If I don’t take revenge after an injustice I’ve lost and am weak.

Mental Strength Beliefs about Revenge

• Revenge is a waste of energy.
• Revenge never satisfies the ego, because the ego cannot be satisfied.
• Revenge is disempowering thinking and rooted in fear.

Outrageous Questions:

• Think about a time you sought revenge and how it impacted your thinking.
• When is (if ever) revenge an intelligent strategy?
• How has revenge served you in the past?

Reflective Questions:

• How have you talked your way out of seeking revenge in the past?
• Do you believe it’s important to get even?
• Is revenge the sign of mental strength or mental weakness?

Mental Strength Coaching:

Revenge: Some says revenge is sweet, if you believe that kindly go back and ask how they feel after revenge. No doubt some of you reading this article right now, may have considered or have even taken revenge for wrongs in the past, how do you feel after the deed; good or bad? Revenge only looks good when it is imagined and as soon as it is executed, it becomes sour.

Final Thought

Revenge originates from the primal need for self-defense. In today’s world, it is often abused as a destructive and futile response to anger or humiliation. Exhaust all alternatives before considering revenge, and use revenge only if it is your only effective self-defense. Why do you believe it is your only alternative? Why do you believe it will be effective? Describe why you believe revenge addresses the cause and will have the effect you want.

Most  strategies for revenge fail because they attempt to change the past. Unfortunately once the damage is done and the injury, insult, humiliation, or other loss occurs, the clock cannot be turned back and the loss is permanent.

In addition, the value of the loss to the offended is seen as much greater than any benefit gained by the offender. As a result the offense represents an unrecoverable loss to society as a whole. Successful strategies for revenge look far into the future and recognize that the cycle of vengeance and retaliation can only spiral toward tragedy and are best stopped before they are started.

Revenge is a doomed attempt to eliminate shame and increase stature by asserting dominance. It fails because asserting dominance does not increase stature, instead it usually increases violence. Also, remorse cannot be coerced, it has to be discovered.

Evidence indicates that forgiveness increases self-esteem and decreases anxiety.

“Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

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