Mental Strength Tip #27 – Conflict for Personal Growth

Achieving peak personal performance and creating personal power begins with a mental strength mindset and empowering beliefs.  Reaching your personal goals starts in the mind and finishes with peak performance…taking massive action.

This is one in a series of mental strength life coaching tips to help start your week of strong so that you can reach your personal goals and personal success.

I take one subject and run though a brief overview of it, then ask some very direct questions.  The intention of these virtual sessions is for you to write the questions in your success journal and then reflect on them and write your answers and thoughts in your journal.

These series of posts are for YOU!  If I’m not able to coach you personally one-on-one, I want you to at least get the benefit of “virtual” coaching.

Objective of this Mental Strength Tip:

To determine you belief’s about conflict see if you perceive any potential for personal growth in situations were conflict occurs.

Let’s Get Started:

Dictionary.com states ‘conflict’ as “a state of opposition between ideas, interests, etc; disagreement or controversy” and “a mental struggle arising from opposing demands or impulses.”

Let me ask you…how often does conflict present itself in your daily actives?  As a student in mental strength can you see how, by the second definition above, that conflict provides an opportunity to exercising your mental strength?

Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Mental Strength Thinking:

• What roles has conflict played in your achievement of personal goals?
• Do you believe there are times when conflict can be positive?
• Can you remember a time when conflict accelerated your personal growth?

Unsupportive Beliefs about Conflict

• Conflict makes me uncomfortable
• Conflict is negative
• Avoid conflict at all costs

Mental Strength Beliefs about Conflict

• Conflict catapults personal growth
• Conflict makes me think and contemplate
• Conflict creates dialogue between individuals and team members

Outrageous Questions:

• Why do avoid or area afraid of conflict?
• What’s the worst thing that can happen in conflict?
• Why are you offended by someone with an opposing view?

Reflective Questions:

• Is there a possibility that conflicting opinions might accelerate growth?
• How can I help you embrace conflict as a catalyst for positive change?
• Would you be willing to purposely create conflict to infuse energy into a longstanding problem?

Mental Strength Coaching:

To be mentally strong is to embracing conflict a bit more every day… even though many of us have been taught to void it all costs.  Remember that the average personal loves to be comfortable, and conflict terrifies them.

I really like the definition of conflict as a mental struggle.  This fits SO well into the concept and practice of mental strength. In order to get stronger (at anything) there must be a “struggle” of some kind.  It’s up to you to label the struggle or conflict as empowering or disempowering.

Final Thought

Conflict doesn’t always mean yelling and screaming.  Conflict is a gap between two perceived different views.  It’s the job of the mental strength practitioner to recognize this gap and develop the techniques to bridge the gap…this can be thought of a negotiations or resolution.

In any case, you can get good at resolving conflict unless you face conflict.  This is one of the cornerstones to personal growth, a mindset to face your fears head on.

If you’d like to get started on developing a rock solid mindset for personal power,  peak human performance, goal setting or achieving your personal goals request your Introductory Consultation today!

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OK…now it’s your turn!  Let me know about your thoughts on this subject in the comments below.