Interpersonal Skills Tips That Lead To Personal Success

I think we can all agree that when an individual has good interpersonal skills they are able to connect with others better and this connection will assist them in achieving their personal success.

People with this mental strength skill tend to be more successful in their career endeavors and their personal relationships.

Nobody is born with interpersonal skills, just as they aren’t born with other mental strength skills.

Fortunately all skills, especially the mental strength kind can be learned and mastered.

So to help you in the development of your interpersonal skills, here are a few tips you can use to help connect with others.

• One of the keys to developing a healthy interpersonal relationship is being enthusiastic. No one likes to hang around with or talk to a person that is all doom and gloom. These types of people are often lost in their own world. Instead, when you actively interact with someone, make them feel that you are interested in connecting and communicating with them they then will be more open to what you say. When you are positive and enthusiastic about your life and what you are saying you will build rapport more easily and develop more intimate relationships.

• If you want to be a good communicator you must be a good listener. While most people love to talk, in order to be understood and appreciated you must pay attention to what other people are saying. Whether you agree with them or not, you need to understand the message that they are trying to convey.

• People with good interpersonal skills are relaxed. If you are overly alert you can give people the impression that you are nervous. If you seem lethargic then no one will want to pay you any mind. You need to find a happy medium between the two. People with good interpersonal skills don’t fidget, tap their toes or twiddle with their hair. Although they are not board-stiff, neither do they slouch or have hunched shoulders.

• If you disagree with someone there is no need to shout and argue. Disagreements should not be accompanied by expressions of anger or high-pitched shrieks. Those actions will only escalate the argument and not solve it. Instead, disagreements should be constructively analyzed by all parties involved. That’s the way that mutually agreeable arrangements can be made.

• It’s important that you smile frequently and maintain eye contact when you listen or talk to people. If you look people up and down when talking to them you will inevitably irritate them.

• Listen to constructive criticism without becoming upset. Analyze it and see if the criticism has any merit.

• Don’t overtly or publicly criticize another person. You may want to gently point out their faults in a private conversation and tell them why you feel that way. And if you do, make sure that you offer at least one positive suggestion about how they can improve.

• Do not be overly assertive. Although a certain measure of assertiveness attests to good interpersonal skills, if you are in a management position you need to remember that micro-managing people will only be a burden to them and to you.

I hope you found some of these useful.  I think at some level of our maturity we have heard all these before.  But knowing and doing are two different things.

The doing takes mental strength.

If you have any other tips on building interpersonal skills please share them in the comments below.