Forgiveness and Personal Responsibility: Mental Strength Tip #167

In order to progress in our human development we must take time to ask questions and contemplate various topics of personal growth, such as forgiveness, which is exactly the intention of these virtual personal coaching sessions.

Personal success is achieved through the disciplined execution of a fully established personal development plan that includes forgiveness and personal responsibility.

These virtual personal coaching sessions are to assist you in your self-improvement, personal growth and personal development.

I take a personal growth topic, in this case forgiveness and personal responsibility, and give an overview about it.  Then I’ll continue by asking a series of mental strength questions.  I’ll wrap-up with a summary and some final thoughts.

Take your time with this topic, carefully consider your responses to the questions and write them down.  Personal growth is not supposed to be easy, it takes courage to face yourself.  But when you develop the courage and mental strength to do actually this, you will be building confidence.

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Objective of this Mental Strength Tip on Forgiveness and Personal Responsibility 

To reinforce the concept of taking full responsibility for everything that happens in our lives and to forgive ourselves for any mistakes we’ve made in the past.

Let’s Get Started on Forgiveness and Personal Responsibility:

Successful people don’t waste precious energy holding grudges and plotting revenge.

“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” – Catherine Ponder

Forgiving is simply the act of releasing feelings of resentment, anger, bitterness or hatred towards someone you believe has done you wrong.

When you truly forgive you are free from the shackles that tie you inexorably to the offender and you are free to move forward with your life instead of being trapped in the past.

• Forgiving someone does not require you to reconcile or have any relationship with the offender whatsoever.

• The offender does not need to apologize in order for you forgive because forgiving them is for your benefit, not theirs.

• Negative emotions such as anger, bitterness, resentment and hatred increases your risk of contracting severe health problems such as cancer, high blood pressure and heart disease.

• If the offender were to apologize you don’t have to accept their apology. How they deal with their guilt (or lack of) is not your concern.

Questions to Uncover Beliefs about Forgiveness and Personal Responsibility:

• What impact does the blame for mistakes have on other people?
• What’s the main difference between ego and soul based thinking?
• What effect does asking forgiveness for your mistakes have on others thinking?

Unsupportive Beliefs about Forgiveness and Personal Responsibility:

• To forgive is weak.
• Forgiveness robs me of my victim role.
• Forgiveness makes me look stupid.

Mental Strength Beliefs about Forgiveness and Personal Responsibility:

• Forgiveness is a sign of strength and self-assurance.
• Forgiveness frees up the mental and emotional energy I would waste thinking about the situation.
• Forgiveness demonstrates my emotional intelligences and maturity.

Outrageous Questions about Forgiveness and Personal Responsibility:

• If you built the habit of asking for forgiveness when you were wrong would it make you more successful?
• If you built the habit of asking for forgiveness when you were wrong would it make you happier?
• Do you have any thoughts of victim mentality in area of your life that you’re still hanging on to?

Reflective Questions about Forgiveness and Personal Responsibility:

• Do you believe it’s possible to take personal responsibility for everything that happens on your life?
• What are the advantages of embracing this philosophy?
• When was the last time you apologized to someone for your behavior?
• What percentage of the time are in soul based consciousness verses ego-based consciousness?

Mental Strength Coaching on Forgiveness and Personal Responsibility:

6 Reasons To Practice Forgiveness

1. The negative emotions you feel don’t affect the offender in the slightest. He/she most likely has moved on with his/her live and doesn’t give you a second thought.
2. The best revenge is to live a happy life. If the offender did indeed deliberately set out to destroy you wallowing in negative emotions means they succeeded. Don’t give them that satisfaction.
3. Understand the offender has helped you grow. OK, maybe you wouldn’t have chosen that particular lesson but don’t let the offender win by letting evil overshadow good.
4. Look at how you can use the experience. You could use this experience to help others in some way. Perhaps you could teach coping mechanisms to others who have been through similar situations or even teach others how to avoid becoming victims themselves.
5. There are good people that surround you. They don’t need to pay the price for what someone else has done to you. Forgiveness frees your loved ones as well as yourself.
6. Put yourself in the offender’s shoes. Maybe they just didn’t know any better…. Perhaps they did the best they could give their knowledge and background. Would they do better now that they know better? Would you have done any different in the same circumstances?

Final Thought on Forgiveness and Personal Responsibility:

We normally tend to see responsibility as a burden imposed from the outside, we think of it as a kind of obligation, a duty, to others

Personal responsibility leads to health, growth and success. To act responsibly at all times is a cornerstone of mental strength thinking,

Yet in truth, your biggest responsibility is toward yourself.

Once you learn the incredible truth about the benefits of leading a responsible life, and experience its astonishing power, you won’t ever want to go back to old habits.

There’s no putting the genie back in the bottle.

Taking personal responsibility for your own life is the first step toward personal freedom and control.

Your life is going to happen anyway. Wouldn’t you rather have the major say in it?

Personal responsibility leads the way to a life worth living – a life filled with health, growth and success.

Get started today on creating this shift and request your Introductory Consultation by going HERE.